The Greatest Father

The greatest man I know lives under my roof.  On any given day, I can finding him sipping from a dainty pink porcelain teacup sitting among a familiar cluster of stuffed animals donning tiaras and tutus.  Of course, he looks a bit out of place physically since he is a mountain of a man, muscled with a shaved head, goatee and tattoos.  But such details are unimportant.  Especially since there is no place he’d rather be than with his youngest daughter, the hostess of the tea parties he attends.  He’d rather be with his daughters than any place on Earth, really.  He truly is the greatest man I know. 

So who is this great man?  Well, I can tell you who he is not.  He is not a world leader.  He is not a professional athlete, and he is not a celebrity.  He is much more important than anyone like that.  He is my husband and the father of my children, the best father, as far as I’m concerned.  And I feel blessed and fortunate every day, not just on Father’s Day, to have a man as wonderful as my husband in my life.

Father’s Day is a day to celebrate a special father in your life.  Sadly, not everyone has a father in his or her life.  Whether claimed by death or lost to circumstances, not everyone will have the opportunity to celebrate with his or her father.  But most people know a father they will celebrate in some capacity.  For me, that special father is my husband. 

First, let me say that Chris is the type of man women croon about in country music songs.  He is a no-nonsense, honest, good-hearted, hardworking man that is rarely found these days.  He does not get pedicures or manicures.  He does not wax body hair of any kind.  He does not wear cologne and he does not carry a man-bag.  He comes home from work dirty and tired and smelling like a man who has put in an honest day’s work.  But make no mistake about it, he is a gem. 

You see, Chris does not need frou-frou bells and whistles to make him the great man he is.  His greatness is not about glitz or showiness.  He does not need it.  He is handsome and fabulous without all that, thank you very much.  What makes him great is the fact that, despite being exhausted and dirty, he always has a smile on his face for the women he comes home to, particularly three little ladies that wait for his car to pull into the driveway at precisely four o’clock.  These same little ladies, incidentally, rise each morning, sometimes before the sun, to see him off to work.  They appreciate him, and he appreciates them.  I hope that one day, they marry someone as wonderful as their father, someone who leads by example, someone who loves with all his heart, someone willing to work for what he wants and give more than he takes.  I hope they are as lucky as I am.  I hope their children are as lucky as they are.  Their father is a great man.

Recently, Chris was at a Father’s Night event at our daughter’s nursery school.  When he came home, after the girls were asleep, he expressed his outrage at how so many fathers ignored their children outright in favor of their phones or other electronic devices.  For him, such an offense was unconscionable.  He could not believe that there were fathers there, at an event for them, who were shooing their kids away, literally in some instances.  To him, nothing was more important than being present in the moment, soaking up our daughter’s littleness and spending time with her.  To me, that need to be present spoke volumes about the kind of father he is and supported my claim that he is the greatest man I know. 

He defuses outbursts and hissy fits with his sense of humor, negotiates treaties before wars ever break out and can bust some of the smoothest moves I have ever seen during our family Wii Just Dance competitions.  He is a kisser of boo-boos, a finder of lost things, a slayer of monsters under beds and fuzzy spiders, a bringer of heat, a strong shoulder to cry on, a warm body to hug, and did I mention he is an all-around nice guy?  Yes, that husband of mine is the greatest man I know.  And the greatest father, too.

Happy Father’s Day, Chris.  The girls and I love you more than words can say!

Uncertain Times

We live in uncertain times.  That is the understatement of all understatements, isn’t it?  Life can change on a dime.  Everything around us is fleeting.  Our jobs, our homes, our sense of well-being, all of it can slip through our fingers like grains of sand.  One only need turn on the television or computer to see that.  It seems we are on shaky ground at all times.  Acts of terrorism, madmen killing unarmed innocents and the wrath of Mother Nature, these atrocities contribute to our waning sense of certitude that everything will be okay.  They feed the feeling that everything in life, even loved ones, can be taken from us in an instant.  Whether it is a co-worker or family member besmirching our name or our reputation or a schoolyard bully taunting us, words – seemingly innocuous compilations of letters – can have the effect of a cannon blast.  Weather seems to be intent upon stealing from us our sense of security as well.  Super-storms, tornadoes and tsunamis make plain for us that a necessity as basic as a home to live in can be swept away in the blink of an eye.  Bombers, zealots and extremists strip from us our sense of safety, making trips to the movie theater, sporting events and even school feel like a calculated risk.  Yes, my friends, we sure do live in uncertain times.

I have not blogged in quite some time.  I have spent much of my off-time focusing on my family, writing novels and reflecting.  I have taken stock in everything around me: people, current events, past incidents.  All of it rolled around in my brain, turning and turning like a ball in perpetual motion.  I went through a range of emotions and tried desperately to make my peace with it.  But sometimes, things just are what they are.  We cannot make sense of them.  We can take what is teachable from them, if anything, and move forward.  It is difficult, but we must.  During this moving-on process, advice I was given earlier in my life began to make complete sense. 

Many years ago, more than I’d care to admit to, an elder in my family told me life is short and that I should never miss a chance to tell someone I love them.  She was a wise and venerable soul, one I connected with despite our vast age difference, one who I sorely miss.  At any rate, when she spoke, I listened.  When she imparted me with this sage piece of wisdom back then, I took it to heart.  Though I was much younger and there seemed to be far less chaos in the world, it had meaning.  And while I did not have the perspective on life then that I hold now, her words resounded with firsthand experience, with truth. 

I have learned as I’ve grown older that her advice is more relevant with each year that passes for I see how very fleeting things are, how very fleeting life can be.  I’ve learned to take nothing for granted.  I say I love you to loved ones before we end our calls, even if I speak to them ten times in the same day.  I hug my children and husband tightly (and often) and never let an opportunity pass to tell them how much they mean to me, how grateful I am for them.  Some may see this as overkill, and they are entitled to their opinions.  But I see it as a mere scratch on the surface of an immense plane of gratitude I feel for having the privilege of being part of their lives.  I cannot tell them enough, in fact.  I want them to know beyond a shadow of a doubt that no matter what happens, what changes life brings, I love them and am grateful for every moment with them.  After all, who knows what tomorrow will bring? 

With all this ambiguity plaguing us as a global community, I want to take this opportunity to do two things.  First, I want to tell each and every person who reads this blog that I appreciate you taking time out of your busy life to stop by this site and peruse the musings of my husband (and co-author) and myself.  Whether you are a friend, family member, reader or first-time visitor who happened upon this website by chance, I am thankful that you did.  Second, I urge you to take the advice I was given so many years ago.  Recognize that, as a senior member of my family once cautioned, life is, in fact, short.  Time seems to rush heedlessly and leave us just trying to catch our breath wondering where it went.  With that in mind, I encourage you to not waste a precious moment of it harboring anger and resentment, ill will or regrets.  Keep moving forward.  Learn from the past and make the future better.  And please, be sure to tell those around you, the people who make life truly worth living, how you feel about them.  Love the ones that love you with every fiber of your being.  You won’t regret it.  I promise.  It will make your life and theirs all the more beautiful and reliable in these uncertain times. 

Wishing you peace, love and happiness,

Jenny

 

Dark Creations: Hell on Earth (Chapter 1)

For those who are waiting patiently for the release of Dark Creations: Hell on Earth, here is a little tease…the first chapter

 

Dark Creations: Hell On Earth

Copyright © 2013 Jennifer and Christopher Martucci

All rights reserved.

First edition: February 2013

 

Chapter 1

 

Sitting atop her worn, down comforter with her book in her lap, Sarah Miller felt completely content for the first time since she’d moved.  She’d been having trouble sleeping weeks earlier and recently found that a good book worked better than any sleeping pill possibly could, and relaxed her enough to doze long before her husband joined her for bed.  Her brief period of sleeplessness had likely been caused by moving her family from Michigan to Minnesota.  After all, the bustling city of Ann Arbor differed dramatically from Taft. 

Taft, a small township nestled in Cook County, was picturesque, but remote.  She was certain its remoteness was what had given her sleepless nights.  Silent nights free of the wail of sirens, horns honking and trains passing had taken time getting used to.  But the view from the south side of her house had not.  The living room, kitchen and her bedroom boasted spectacular views of Bluefin Bay on Lake Superior.  The cramped condominium she and her family had left had only offered other condominiums in its landscape.

She looked out at the bay.  Moonlight danced across the water and glistened like innumerable diamonds.  The perpetual motion of the water and the quiet of her bedroom made Sarah doubt she would even need to read, that is, until her husband and sons erupted with cheers from downstairs.  She started, but only briefly.  They were undoubtedly watching a sporting event of some kind and celebrating their team’s latest achievement.  She smiled to herself, still a little shaky from the outburst, and opened her book to the last page she’d read.  The intrigue of the plot absorbed her immediately.  She did not know how much time had passed after several chapters had been read, but stopped reading only to rub her eyes.  As she did so, a loud yelping sliced through the peace and quietude of the night.  She sprung to her feet and her book fell from her lap to the floor.  The cry had sounded like her dog Max’s.  She knew he was outside.  She had heard the door close, had heard him lumbering around on the deck.

She moved to the large window and stared out.  She did not see Max, or anything else for that matter, just shapes.  The moon no longer lit the water or the deck outside her bedroom.  The world beyond her windowpane was black.  She stood completely still and concentrated, listening for the sound again.  But instead of a yelp, a new sound rang out unexpectedly.  The doorbell echoed through her contemporary home.  She jumped and nearly knocked over the lamp on her nightstand.  She wondered who would be visiting at such a late hour, especially since the area she lived in was so sparsely inhabited.  The entirety of Cook County had less than three thousand residents.  The homes were set on large lots of land, most of them rural.  Neighbors did not simply drop by as they had in Ann Arbor.  None of her current neighbors were close enough to pay a quick, spontaneous visit.  Something felt wrong.  She wasted no time and trotted across her room into the hallway and leaned over the balustrade.

“Jake!” she whispered as loudly as she could before she realized he was right below her.  She jumped again.  “Oh jeez! You scared the crap out of me!”

“Sorry,” he said and the doorbell rang a second time.  “What the hell is this about?  It’s ten o’clock, for crying out loud!”

“I don’t know.  Something’s wrong.  I don’t like this one bit,” she said.

“All right, let’s not overreact here.  Let me just answer the door and find out.”

“Wait,” she said and gestured to the hall closet.

“Good idea,” he replied and reached for his shotgun.  He quickly loaded it and looked up at her and winked.  “Just in case, right?”

Her son Keith dashed up the stairs and past her to his room.  He returned from his room with his own shotgun in hand.  She gave him a stern look of disapproval.

“What?” he asked. 

She did not respond verbally, but narrowed her eyes and pursed her lips at him.

“It’s in the Constitution,” he said and smiled slyly.  “I have the right to defend myself and my family,” he said and sounded just like his father.

Though seeing her nineteen-year-old son wielding a shotgun did not exactly make her heart swell with pride, she knew he had been to the range with his father and had been taught to use it safely by a trained professional.  She even felt a degree of reassurance that half of her family was currently armed. 

Thumping from the deck that wrapped around the rear of the house stripped her of her reassured feeling, however.  She, along with her husband and Keith, froze and listened.  Another thud sounded, softer than the previous one, but audible, nonetheless.  They all exchanged nervous glances and her husband called for their youngest son.

“John,” he said in a strained whisper.  “John!”

John appeared immediately in the foyer. 

“What’s going on, Dad?  What was that thumping sound on the deck?” he asked nervously.

“I don’t know, son, could be just animals, but I need you to get the phone and go to you room now, okay.  Get in your closet and press speed dial number two, that’s the sheriff’s office.  You tell him there’s trouble out here and he needs to come right away.”

“I’ll go check it out,” Keith said with authority.  “I’ll secure the kitchen.  There’s nothing to worry about, little bro.  Dad and I are prepared for anything, right Dad?”

“Sure, Keith,” he said to his eldest son then turned to John.  “Now, go upstairs, John, all right?”

“Okay Dad,” John replied and breezed past her, phone in hand, to his room.  She continued slowly down the steps, all the while her heart knocked violently against her ribcage. The doorbell sounded a third time and her husband answered it before the tolling stopped.  She was midway down the staircase when she saw who stood in their doorway.

Sarah drew her breath in sharply, shocked, but also relieved.  It was a young woman, an extraordinarily beautiful young woman.  The girl couldn’t have been more than twenty years old and had short dark hair that fell to her chin stylishly, and large, dark eyes.  Her husband immediately relaxed his grip on the gun he held behind the door. 

“Can I help you with something, Miss?” her husband asked the girl.

“I’m so sorry for the late hour, but is Keith home?” she asked politely.

“Uh yeah, he’s here,” her husband fumbled, confused, and turned to call their son. “Uh, Keith, there’s someone here to see,” he started. But before he could say the word you, the girl brandished a pistol.

“No!” Sarah heard herself say and watched in horror as white bursts flashed silently from the long-barreled muzzle of the gun into the back of her husband’s head.  He fell to the floor instantly and she screamed again.  “Jake!  No!” 

Her legs felt leaden and her mind froze.  It was as if something in her brain, in the deepest reaches of her psyche, had shut down.  She wanted to run to her husband, to help him, but her body refused to cooperate, her brain halted by shock.

The sound of glass exploding from the kitchen roused her from the shock that gripped her, glass exploding and the sound of more screams, her son Keith’s screams.  Shots rang out from the kitchen, and then an eerie silence fell.

“Keith!” she shrieked, but knew her oldest son was gone.  Screams from behind her brought her body back to life, and an instinctive need to protect her last living child overtook her.  She turned and saw John at the top of the steps and shouted, “Go! Out your bedroom window!  Now!” then felt a bullet graze her ear.  The pain seared and the sound left her ear ringing, a shrill, deafeningly loud noise.  More bullets rained at her in quick succession and peppered the wall behind her.  She moved up the steps quickly, away from the spray of bullets and after her son, determined to ensure his safety, his survival. 

“Go!” she ordered him.  “Just go!”

Sarah knew he was small enough to crawl out his window onto the roof of the screened-in porch and drop to the ground below.  If he hurried, he’d be able to escape.  He knew the woods beyond their house well, knew to stay close to the bay and follow the shoreline to town. 

Thoughts of his escape ran through her mind as she rounded the corner to John’s room and found him still standing there.

“What, what’re you doing? Go!” she pleaded.

“I’m not leaving you!” he argued.

“I’ll be right behind you,” she said but knew she could not fit through the window.  “I promise I’ll be right behind you.”

He looked at her and nodded in agreement then climbed out his bedroom window.

Her lie had appeased him and he scampered out onto the roof of the porch and disappeared over the edge.  She felt a moment of thankfulness that at least one of her family members would survive the night; just one.  Tears burned behind her eyelids and spilled down her cheeks.  Unimaginable heartache clenched in her chest and tore at her.  Only one of her family of four would live.  Two were already gone.  She couldn’t understand any of it; nothing made sense.  But she did not have time to mourn or consider her situation.  Footsteps echoed behind her.  She looked to the doorway and saw that a slender figure flanked by two larger ones filled it.  The girl had returned.  And she was not alone.  Two young men, around her age, accompanied her.  Up close, she could see that all of them were remarkably good-looking.  The men were tall and strapping, with faces that were almost angelic.  All three had chestnut-hued hair and equally dark eyes that stood out against their pale skin.  She guessed from their considerable similarities, their identical delicate features and coloring, that they were siblings, divine looking siblings.  But something in their eyes was far from saintly. 

“Who are you people? What do you want?” was all she could think of to say.

“We are the Millers,” one of the men said calmly.  “I’m Keith Miller.”

Sarah looked at each of their faces, searching for an answer, but they remained stoic.

“Excuse me?” she said and felt tears well again. She tried to blink them back but to no avail.

“I’m Keith Miller, and you’re intruding in my home,” he replied.

The room began to spin, slowly at first, then faster and faster.  Sarah thought she would vomit, but swallowed hard instead and said in a trembling voice, “Keith Miller is dead.  You killed him, you sick bastards!”

“Who are you and why are you in our house?” the woman asked.

Sarah looked over her shoulder out the window and prayed her son had made it safely to the shore.  Surely, he was long gone and well on his way to town.  She turned back and found the girl’s face inches from hers.  The girl seized her by the back of her head and grabbed a handful of her hair.  She dragged Sarah to the window and pressed her face to the glass.  All Sarah could see were the inky silhouettes of tress against the darkness.

“Oh don’t worry about John,” she hissed.  “He’s not going anywhere.” The woman then pulled a flashlight from a utility belt that hung around her hips and shined it into the night.  The small tool produced a beam of light like a floodlight and lit the entire yard.  And that’s when she saw John.

Her son stood, motionless, and surrounded by three creatures the likes of which she’d never seen.  They looked like mythical gatekeepers of the underworld.  They glared up at her with murderous, yellow eyes, the eyes of predators.  Her son called out to her.  “Mom!” he shouted and all the beasts but one turned their attention from her to him.  They stalked around him on all fours crouched low like wolves, but not any wolves she’d ever seen.  Massive with mains of golden hair, they circled him lithely, their muscled flanks rippling in anticipation; except one.  A single creature glared at her.  She watched her son, but felt its eyes on her.

“John,” she whimpered.

“Not for long,” the woman whispered at her ear.

Sarah refused to turn and face her.  Instead, she cried out her son’s name, tears burning down her cheeks, “John!” she wailed.

The beast that watched her rose on its haunches and furrowed its brow.  She gasped and saw that when standing, it towered over John.  It appeared to be at least seven feet tall, and looked remarkably human.  Its features were expressive.  It narrowed its eyes at her and smiled, revealing its sharp, fanged teeth then looked beyond her at the woman.  In her peripheral vision, she saw the woman gesture.  At the woman’s command, the creature spun and dropped back on all fours and descended on her son.

“No!” she screamed.

Her son cried out, and the others in the pack attacked him.

Sarah’s legs gave out from beneath her, and she felt the woman’s grip on the back of her neck relax.  She collapsed to the floor in horror and disbelief.  She sobbed uncontrollably.  Her worst nightmares had never been as horrific as what she’d just witnessed, as her evening had been.  She felt as though she’d been cast into hell and was enduring the worst suffering a person could bear.  She’d watched her children die, watched her husband die.  No pain could possibly be worse, no punishment more depraved. 

“Oh now, stop your crying,” she heard the woman say flatly.  She looked up and saw the woman watching her impassively, without the slightest trace of humanity.  “Your time on Earth is over.  Our time has come.”

The woman raised her gun and aimed it at Sarah’s temple. 

The last sound Sarah Miller heard was the loud popping of the pistol firing as the woman pulled the trigger, then silence, blessed silence.  Her hell ended.

 

 

 

 

50 Shades of Truth

All my life, I have been surrounded by people in search of the truth.  Not an absolute truth or anything that dire, just truth in general.  Friends asked for it.  Parents demanded it.  All pursued it.  I never blamed them.  Who wouldn’t want to know the truth?

The truth helps us avoid misunderstandings and complications in life.  It shapes our identity and gives us respectability.  It safeguards us from major problems.  Telling the truth is the right thing to do in all situations.  At least that’s what I was taught.

Over time, I recognized a trend among those who seek the truth.  I realized that these same people, these truth seekers, when confronted with whatever truth they’ve sought, are almost never satisfied when they unearth it.  This phenomenon has been something I’ve observed since I was in elementary school.  Almost everyone in my life has asked for the truth, whether it was of me, their friends, spouses, government, yet have been invariably disappointed when faced with it.

As the years passed and I matured a bit, I began to wonder, is the truth really worth finding?

Fast forward to the present and I am a thirty-something mother of three with a husband and a mortgage and all the bells and whistles that accompany adulthood.  I have lived my life to this point being as honest as possible.  Don’t get me wrong, I have told a great many whoppers in my time.  I have told big lies, small lies, little white lies – every kind of lie you can imagine.  But when it concerned the people closest to me – my family and friends – I have been honest, sometimes brutally so.  Yet recently, an acquaintance of mine not-so-subtly called me a phony.  After my initial shock and insult wore off (the comment came out of left field) I was able to consider what she’d said to me.  And I had an epiphany: she was right.  I am a phony; with her at least.

When I run into her, I behave in a way I consider civil because I dislike her intensely.  To her, I am a phony.  To me, I am merely playing nicely.  Regardless, her comment forced me to reconsider phoniness versus genuineness, lying versus the truth, particularly in extenuating circumstances.  Is it okay to tell someone flat out, “No, I’d rather not stop and chat because I do not like you,” since they have asked you, in no uncertain terms, to stop being a phony?  At what point does telling the truth cross a line and become rude or cruel?

As a result the phony accusation, I decided to spend several days telling the unabashed truth.  No cushioning, no filters.  What I found was exactly what I’d observed many years ago.  People do not want to hear the truth.  They prefer gradations.  I know I do.  The truth is often ugly, or painful, or too much for us to handle.  Unequivocal facts are stark. Furthermore, the truth is often subject to perception.  It is subjective in many instances. For example, what one person may view as beauty, another may perceive as unattractiveness.  Many factors affect our judgment and influence our opinions which are then formed into our personal truths.  Even historical facts have been influenced to some degree by the person who has recorded them, word choices shape the context in which the content of any document is delivered.  The truth as it is told is sometimes slanted.  And I know this because I have been on the receiving end of truths that were less than pleasant to hear.  I had one of my daughter’s friend’s grandparents tell me that my new darker hair color looked “horrible” before she launched into a tirade about how I’d ruined my looks by returning to my brunette roots.  I remember standing there, speechless, feeling as if I’d just been slapped.  The woman’s truth had hurt my feelings.  I wish she would have kept her truth to herself, or at least tempered it with a little mercy.  Her one truth negated all the compliments I’d received up to that point.

The moral of my rant is this: The truth is not always black and white.  It is not as straight forward as we think.  There are many, many shades of it.  And that’s the truth :)

What is your opinion?  

 

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WTF?

Ever have “one of those days”?  Everyone has.  I did yesterday, and it left me wondering WTF?

My day started the same as most others.  I woke up in a good mood, worked out, and had breakfast with my daughters.   No big whoop.  Nothing new there.  As I cleared the plates, I was reminded of a recipe I wanted to try and realized a trip to the supermarket was in order.  I made my list and the kids played nicely while they waited for me to grab my reusable bags, purse and keys.  Now I don’t know about any of you, but food shopping is not one of my top ten favorite things to do. It is a chore, a chore that is generally made less daunting by doing it early in the morning.  So the kids and I hopped into the minivan just before eight o’clock in the morning and headed out.

 I was driving down a main road, admittedly going five miles per hour faster than the speed limit, when I glanced up into my rearview mirror and noticed a car rapidly approaching.  I think I lost a few years of my life when I looked up.  It seemed as though the driver wasn’t going slow down, that perhaps he was going to attempt to drive right through my car.  When finally he did slow at the last minute, my stomach sank to my feet because it became apparent that he’d decided against passing me and opted instead to tailgate me so closely that I think he could smell my deodorant.  A tractor trailer was in the left lane, and drove just a bit faster than me.  This detail sent the guy into a tizzy.  He tailed and swerved from right to left, and made no effort to conceal his anger.  I didn’t know what the heck to do.  I just maintained the same speed I’d been driving at and hoped the tractor trailer would move to the right lane. And it did.  The tractor trailer pulled into the right lane along with the few cars behind it, and the car behind me (which was a small Mercedes) passed me, but not before slowing next to me, lowering his window and cursing while he gave me the finger.

Don’t get me wrong, I’ve been given the finger before. Obviously this was not my first time.  But it was my first time as a minivan-driving mother with her kids in the car.  And, it left me wondering, WTF?  Why did he feel the need to do such a thing? Was I not speeding fast enough for him? Would he have done it if, say, a big guy like my husband had been at the wheel?  All of these questions swirled in my mind.  I felt angry and vulnerable.  What a tough guy, cursing and gesturing to a woman with her children! My kids were asking me why the man had shouted at me.   I didn’t have a real answer.  I just told them he was probably having a bad day.  And thanks to him, I was too.

A brief pause at a red light allowed me enough time to collect myself, and my good mood began to return.  I chalked the guy up as a hyper-aggressive nut and put it out of my mind.  A couple of minutes later, we had arrived at the grocery store and I parked my car in the parking lot. 

Crossing the lot to the market, I saw a mother with her three daughters.  She looked familiar.  Certain I’d seen her at my daughters’ school, I smiled and said “hi” as I passed.  We were no more than four or five feet from each other, yet she did not acknowledge me.  No nod.  No smile.  No wave. WTF?  My oldest daughter turned to me and said, “Mommy that was not very nice.” And you know what, it wasn’t.  But again, I made an excuse, and told her that perhaps the woman had not heard me even though I would bet my house she had.  But I shrugged of the slight and began my shopping.  I put my youngest into the basket seat of the shopping cart and my other two walked on either side.  We happily went up and down the aisles and the girls took turns using the self-scanner.  The store was almost empty and it wasn’t until we reached the cereal aisle that we saw an elderly couple.

The girls were discussing what cereal we should buy and decided on one that was near the couple.  I smiled at them and said, “Excuse me” as I grabbed a box off the shelf in the vicinity of where they stood.  My middle daughter told me, “Good job using your manners, Mommy,” which is something I frequently say to them to let them know that I see them using their manners and am proud of them.  Any given moment can be a teaching one, right?  So I laughed and thanked them and reinforced the importance of manners.  When I looked up from their smiling faces, however, I was met with other not-so-happy faces.  The elderly couple scowled at me, at us. For reasons unknown to me, the elderly couple was angry.  WTF?  Now call me crazy, but isn’t there a rumor somewhere about old people liking children?  For the record, this couple dispelled any thoughts I’d had on that subject.  I did not want to stick around and risk hearing them start cursing at me.  I quickly ushered the girls away from them and headed toward checkout.

 I figured the self-checkout lanes were the safest bet given the morning I’d had so far.  All were empty so I scanned the barcode and my loyalty card and my order quickly processed.  All I needed to do was weigh and scan my produce items.  As I reached in the back of the cart, a man walked up to us.  My youngest turned from him and called out to me.  I looked up and saw him, and he was standing way too close for comfort to my daughter.  And quite honestly, the man looked deranged.  My inner mama lion bristled at his proximity.  “How many items ya got?’ he asked huffily.  I looked at him and tried to warn him with my eyes while I politely told him that there were four other lanes he could use if he did not feel like waiting.  He huffed and clucked several more times and took a step back.  He stepped forward again quickly, and put a hand on the handle of the wagon, next to my daughter.  WTF?!  At this point, I had had enough.  “Can I help you with something?” I asked in a confrontational voice that was far more confident than I felt.  He looked at me, dumbfounded then asked again, “I just wanna know if you’re almost finished.”  And then I lost it.  I fired back, “I’ll be done when I’m done, understand?  Now away from my daughter before I start screaming!” He promptly backed up and shut up.  I paid and left, walking on legs that felt like they were made of Jello.

Once in the car, I sighed and fought back tears.  I wondered what the heck had become of people.  Had they all lost their mind?  I wondered why people have to be so impatient, so intolerant; so rude.  Did the man at checkout need to bluster impatiently behind me and scare the daylights out of me?  Wouldn’t it have been simpler for him to go to any of the four empty lanes next to me?  Was the elderly couple as grumpy with their own grandchildren as they were with me and my children?  Is educating one’s children about the value of good manners somehow offensive?  Was my greeting to the woman in the parking lot so inappropriate that she felt compelled to ignore it? And when did it become socially acceptable to drive so darn aggressively, and respond so obscenely to another driver who does not bend to your bullying will?

I was rattled yesterday.  Still am.  I am, by no means, Pollyanna.  But I am a closet optimist who reluctantly believes in the general decency of humanity.  The novels I write all embrace good triumphing over evil, and the goodness of man as an inherent characteristic.  Yet I found myself, in that moment, identifying with the villain in the series, a man hell-bent on transforming society into an emotionless collection of beings because he  believes emotions to be the root of all evil in society.  I have to say, I laughed aloud in the car as I thought that perhaps my villain was on to something, and how he might have reacted if he were me, and real!  

Then a funny thing happened.  I realized I wasn’t the only person who had laughed in the car. I heard giggling from the back of the minivan.  I turned and looked at my smiling gigglers, my three little girls, and I felt better instantly.  I saw what was, and is, right with the world, in my world.

I live in reality, and days like yesterday, well, they don’t serve anyone’s optimism.  But it was just a bad day.  One day out of many that was temporarily lowlighted by the shortcomings of a few people.  And while I don’t readily admit to it, and will deny it if this is ever mentioned, I do believe tomorrow will be a better day. 

 

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Being a Father by Chris Martucci

 

Someone once told me that a person never fully appreciates his parents until he becomes a parent.  I couldn’t have been older than eleven or twelve when I got that piece of information, and remember rolling my eyes and walking away after hearing it.   I guess I was a pretty typical adolescent boy.  People loved to share what they believed to be pearls of wisdom with me back then, and I would shrug them off.  Yet despite my indifferent reaction, more than twenty-five years have passed and the words still echo in my head.  I remember looking at my father later that day and, for a split second, saw him as a person, not just my dad.  The moment was fleeting of course and I ran off shortly after.  The rest of that day is a jumble of youthful memories, long since blurred by time and subjectivity.

I am a father now, a father of three beautiful girls.  My life is not as simple as it was back then.  I listen respectfully when my elders try to impart some of their good sense with me, and my father died six years ago.  His passing left a gaping hole in my life, and in my heart.  I reminisce and smile.  But it is always bittersweet.  I look at my girls and listen to their stories and think: Wow, Dad would have gotten a kick out of them.  And he would have.  I am sure of it.  I know I certainly do.  I see him in them at times, and I hope they will someday see what I saw in him in me.

Growing up, whenever I was faced with a tough decision or a question of ethics, I always asked myself: What would Dad do?  And the answer became clear.  He was a good and decent man, honest and true.  He was my moral compass. 

I try to model my father’s goodness for my children.  I want to be their moral compass.  I want them to feel how I felt growing up, that no matter where I was or what I was doing, my heart was always pointing in the right direction; it pointed toward home.

Home is still my due North.  My kids are there, my wife, everything I need.  I’m not there as often as I’d like. I work long hours.  Let’s face it, being a writer is akin to being unemployed, so I go to work six days most weeks.  I don’t love my job.  In fact, I hate it, but I’m thankful to be working, to be able to provide food and shelter for my family.  It also helps to know that once I leave work, no matter how awful my day has been, no matter how stressed out I am, it will melt away, fast. I rush home as soon as my shift is over, eager to see my girls (all of them).  The door is usually open before I’m up the walkway, and three little honeybees are buzzing around jockeying for a chance to tell me something.  It is the sweetest sound on Earth.  I come in, put my thermos and the mail on the counter and soak it up.  Each gets her turn to tell me about her day, and I listen.  I ask questions.  And they love it, almost as much as I do.  Fathers are important.  Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.  We can promote with a wink, heal with a hug and warm with our words.  We have tremendous influence and need to be careful with it.  Our kids are always listening, even when they shrug or roll their eyes. 

My daughters are growing fast, always listening and learning along the way.  They’ll be teenagers before I know it.  I don’t like thinking about it, but it’s inevitable.  I have made it my personal goal to keep my relationship with all three of them strong and honest.  I hope that they see me in the same light I saw, and now remember, my father. 

The strong father-daughter bond between the heroine of the Dark Creations series (a series I coauthored with my wife) and her father was not by accident.  It was entirely deliberate. Theirs is an authentic, forgiving rapport.  I hope to have that kind of closeness with my girls once the teenage years arrive, and into adulthood. In the meantime, I am enjoying the uncomplicated hum of my little honeybees.  And though they do an awful lot of buzzing, they are listening as well.  I am too.

As for the advice given to me so many years ago, well, I can’t say for certain whether being a parent offers greater appreciation for having a parent.  Frankly I’m not interested in philosophizing about the chicken or the egg and which came first because that’s what it boils down to, right?  No, what I’m interested in is simpler than that.  I want to continue what my father started, point my daughters in the right direction, and always lead them home.

 

 

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Ending My Facebook Phobia

For many years, I was reluctant to join Facebook.  Call me stodgy, or stubborn, but I genuinely felt that there was no need whatsoever to merge my past with my present.  After all, the past is the past for a reason, right?  Wrong.  Well, for me at least.  You see, for quite some time, I hid from my past.  Yes, you read that correctly.  I hid from my past.  I was ashamed and scared to relive it, even for a moment, by connecting with former classmates and colleagues.  I believed that by communicating with them, I would open up a Pandora’s Box of painful memories that I had spent half my life trying to tuck away.  You see, my high school years were not the easiest for me.  And I wonder, are they truly easy for anyone? 

According to many of the people I’ve reconnected with through Facebook, I can honestly say that most expressed the same feelings I had about their teen years; perhaps not to the same extent, but there were definite misgivings.  Unfortunate fashion choices, odd hairstyles, and general lifestyle choices we make as teens can range from being awkward memories to truly humiliating and distressing remembrances that we’d just as soon forget.  Mine, for the most part, fell into the latter category (although I did have a cringe-worthy, teased and hair sprayed coif at one point to add to it).  For that reason, I wanted to stay as far away from them as possible, and by default, Facebook.  Facebook represented a key to those memories through people who had shared them with me.  They were there, but I refused to be.  Yet the opportunity to bridge the past and present was omnipresent, always being referenced and discussed, happily.

My mother-in-law was on Facebook, my sister, sister-in-laws, friends, everyone, and they loved it.  But I remained unconvinced.  I was what I was back then.  The social networking site held no allure for me.  I did not want to kick the quintessential hornet’s nest.  I wondered whether anyone would want to friend me.  Many reasons and excuses existed – most of which had been created by yours truly – to not join.  At the urging of someone very close to me and against what I thought was my better judgment at the time however, I set up an account and friended family members and close friends.  As time went by, I became braver and expanded my circle beyond my comfort zone to include people I had thought about through the years and remembered fondly.  I sent out friend requests, clicking with a trembling hand on my mouse, and hoping.  To my surprise, all responded positively and accepted my friendship requests.  Some even contacted me privately by phone, text or email.  These were people from high school and middle school that I had always respected and admired because they knew who they were.  They did not need to prove themselves to anyone.  They possessed then, and still possess now, that indescribable quality that makes a person truly special.  Some call it class.  Some call it poise or grace.  I call it all of the above, and so much more.  They transcended the hierarchy and politics of school, the games, the rumors; the cruelty.  I don’t need to remind anyone that school can be tough.  In an ideal world, cruel and hurtful words would never be spoken there.  Bullying would never take place.  Names would never be called.  In an ideal world, school would be a place where children and adolescents go to learn and grow, and lay the foundation for who they’re going to be in adulthood, not discover how much misery they can withstand before mental health intervention becomes necessary.  The people I am in contact with now, they are the ones with dignity and self-assurance that developed during those trying tween and teen years, and thrived in adulthood.  They are people I am proud to name among my friends.

As a result of these extraordinary people, I have embraced Facebook.  I have enjoyed catching up with them.  In fact, I look forward to reading their posts, seeing pictures of their loved ones and celebrating their successes.  They managed to evoke change in an otherwise pig-headed person: me.  Because of them, I have done an about-face about Facebook, about confronting my past.  And while I will probably never reconcile all of my feelings about my high school experience, reuniting with the cream of the crop from that time period certainly helps. 

My high school years influenced my decision to write for a young adult audience about young adults.  In many ways, I’ve found it cathartic.  There are even dramatic scenes written into the first book of the Dark Creations series that incorporate autobiographical material.  Admittedly, they were not easy passages to write.  I forced myself to revisit rather ugly events from long ago.  But I thought them necessary elements of a more honest account of what high school is really like.  Along with bullying and cruelty, there is underage drinking, drugs and date rape.  We may not want to think about such things, but they continue to happen and are as relevant now as they were nearly twenty years ago. 

Choosing to write about teenagers was not solely driven by unpleasant reminiscences, though.  Writing and reuniting with high school friends also made me remember some of the funnier experiences.  I properly laughed out loud when recalling Shakespeare recitations from my eleventh grade English class.  Memorizing rich, wordy passages and delivering them in front of a classroom filled with sixteen- and seventeen- year old students is not for the faint of heart.  I distinctly recall having to do one such presentation in a Halloween costume and feeling completely mortified.  Since giving birth to three children and having what felt like half of an entire hospital’s worth of staff see me naked from the waist down, I’ve since revised my definition of what it means to feel ‘completely mortified’.  For the record, I can still recite many of the passages I was assigned to memorize in eleventh grade, but time and life experience has changed my viewpoint about doing so in front of an audience; that and Facebook friends.

People always talk about reliving their teenage years, about how great it would be to be young again.  Personally, I would never want to be a teenager again.  I love my life as it is.  Even if it were possible for me to return, armed with the knowledge I have now, I would still pass on the opportunity.   I’d much rather write about the subject and reminisce with friends – old and new.

Life’s Little Surprises

Once upon a time, I sat on the couch in the living room of my home and told my mother I would never get married or have children.  At the time, she did not try to discourage me.  She did not try to persuade me.  She simply nodded and listened and let me speak my piece.  My mom was always like that, still is.  She has a unique knack for letting me express myself without judgment.  But I’d meant it when I’d said it.  It hadn’t been in response to a bad break-up, or an imitation of a popular trend.  It was something I’d known since I was nine.  You see, I’d seen what happened to married people, how marriages ended and families were divided.  I never wanted to be in that position.  I never wanted to wager my heart, or bring children into a situation that would inevitably hurt or disappoint them.  After all, those scars are permanent.  Not getting married or having children seemed logical, and safe.  And I enjoyed my rational safety throughout my young adulthood. That is, until I met Chris.

Chris and I met at a nightclub in Connecticut.  It was neither romantic nor fairytale in nature.  We dated for a few months and things became serious.  Right about at that time, I figured things would end.  He was going on a trip with his dad and siblings for two weeks and it seemed a natural ending point.  But to my surprise, he called me several times while away, told me he missed me and couldn’t wait to come home and see me.  I realized then that I was in uncharted waters.  More time passed.  We grew closer.  And then it happened.  After about a year of dating, he asked me to marry him.  Most girls know or suspect when their boyfriends are going to propose, but I was completely shocked.  What was even more shocking then was that I accepted his proposal.  I said yes.

Let me just say that the first year of marriage was anything but easy.  We did not live together prior to marrying, so that was a big adjustment, and we were both young.  I was twenty-one and he was a month shy of his twenty-fifth birthday.  We fought a lot.  I was insanely jealous and distrustful.  I was so damaged that I had a bag packed in the closet for the first year.  Just after the one-year mark, I was diagnosed with early-stage cancer. I thought for sure the packed bag would come in handy.  Why would he stay with a sick person?  Men left, or cheated right?  Wrong.  To the contrary, Chris stood by me and supported me during treatment. 

After my treatment was finished, my oncologist informed me that conceiving a child would be next to impossible.  This news affected me differently than one might imagine.  Though I had not thought I wanted to have children, having the option taken from me was not what I’d bargained for.  But I accepted the news.  We accepted the news. 

Five years later, while on vacation Chris turned to me and said, “I think we should try.  We should try to have a baby.”  After looking at him like he was nuts, I reminded him of my doctor’s warning.  But Chris was undeterred.  His optimism was infectious, and dangerous.  I agreed, certain conception would never happen.  Less than a month after we returned from vacation, I found out I was pregnant. 

Needless to say, I nearly fell out of my stirrups when my doctor announced the results of my pregnancy test.  But preliminary ultrasounds revealed nothing.  He could not visually confirm my pregnancy and was not optimistic.  I suddenly wanted nothing more than to see a “bean” as he called it.  I wanted to see my baby.  By my next appointment, a flickering light offered proof of life: a heartbeat.  I was overjoyed, and in love. 

Nine months later, labor began (and continued for fourteen hours.)  Decelerations in our baby’s heart rate prompted an emergency C-section.  Chris had warned me in advance that he was not the type of person who cried when he was happy, and would not cry when our baby was born.  He worried I’d be disappointed if he didn’t cry.  I was prepared for a stoic birthing partner.  To my surprise, as the doctors tugged at my belly to get Alexandra out, a mighty dam broke within my husband and when she let out her first cries, she was not alone.  I had never seen Chris cry before.  His surgical mask was soaked.  His contact lenses were lost.  He wept unabashedly.  In that moment, my capacity to love multiplied incalculably, irrevocably. 

Nine months later, I became pregnant again.  The process was repeated.  Melissa, our second daughter was born eighteen months after Alexandra.  Our love, our family continued to grow.  A little over a year later, I became pregnant again.  Our third daughter, Daniella, was born two years after our second.  Tears of joy flowed on all three occasions. 

The point of telling this story is to share with you the evolution of a relationship, that sometimes what we plan for in life, or what we think we want at a certain time in life is just that.  Time passes.  We grow and change.  What makes human beings truly remarkable is our ability to adapt, to revise our original plan.  I never thought I wanted a husband or children.  But that was before love surprised me.  Life is filled with little surprises.  Some are pleasant.  Some are not so pleasant.  But we work with these surprises (or around them if need be.).  We embrace them.  The course of my life was a complete surprise, and I am better for it. 

I keep my personal surprises in mind no matter what I’m doing, especially when writing.  Surprises are a part of every person’s life so naturally, they are included in the lives of my fictitious characters as well.  In each book, there are numerous instances where in which main characters are left with a feeling of wonder or amazement, shock or bewilderment, or are caught completely off guard.  What can I say, I write what I know.

Love caught me completely off guard, that’s for sure.  It has shocked and amazed me; bewildered me at times and took my breath away on more occasions than I can count.  Life’s little surprises have strengthened me, inspired me, wizened me, and I am grateful for them.

My First Kiss

First kisses are often memorable experiences.  Hearts pound, pulses race and expectations soar as two people lean closer to one another, each second ticking by with infinitesimal slowness until their lips touch.  As it is happening, all of our senses are heightened, busily firing messages to our brains and creating a firestorm of chemical reactions. 

There is a tremendous amount of science involved in a kiss, particularly a first kiss, and it is largely responsible for why (or why not) we remember them vividly.  I am neither a scientist nor am I newly minted in the first kiss department.  In fact, my first kiss was quite some time ago.  But I do remember most of the details – who initiated it, how long it lasted, where we were etc.  After all, it was a significant lifetime experience.  But unlike many people who recall their first kiss fondly and immortalize it as the gold standard by which all others are judged, mine served a more cautionary purpose. 

I was twelve years old and he was fourteen.  We were waiting for my mother to pick me up from his house and he walked me downstairs.  Rain had begun to fall.  The smell of freshly fallen rain against the street in front of his apartment building elicited the faint scent of motor oil from the pavement.  That, combined with the generous splashing of his dad’s Polo aftershave, melded to form a rather unpleasant odor.  Because of the rain, we sought shelter under the awning of a neighboring doorway.  For the first time, he wrapped both of his arms around me, positioning my face flush against his shoulder and at the epicenter of the Polo spill.  I found it difficult to breathe or swallow without smelling or tasting his cologne, so I pulled back slightly.  Our faces were inches apart.   I looked up at him and saw that a strange expression had clouded his features.  I thought perhaps his mother’s macaroni and cheese bake had left him feeling ill and I tried to step backward.  But he held tighter and drew me toward him.  Slowly, he inched his face nearer to mine.  I heard my heard thundering in my ears, wondered what he was doing exactly.  And then his lips brushed my lips, a soft, simple kiss.

The memory would have been fine had it been left at that single kiss.  But, he, being the older more experienced of us, became ambitious.  The pleasant touching of our lips transformed into a sloppy, saliva-filled ordeal where in which he placed his entire tongue in my mouth and rolled it about.   

I still gag when I think about it.

My first kiss was a horrendously moist, messy event that soured me to kissing for years thereafter.  From that point on, anytime a boyfriend moved in for a smooch, my first instinct was to recoil in horror.  I am happy to report that I have since overcome my misgivings about kissing and enjoy a healthy kiss-life.  I have even found a way to enjoy a first kiss over and over again.  Granted, it is vicarious enjoyment, but enjoyment never the less.

As an avid reader, I have discovered that romance novels, be them paranormal, harlequin or other, provide the vividly detailed excitement of experiencing that once in a lifetime event innumerable times.  With each new set of characters that I read about, firsts are had.  Some are sweet and innocent.  Others are charged and passionate.  Regardless, they are all new to me. 

As an author, I am able to draw from life experiences, or create entirely fictitious scenarios, and perpetuate the newness of romance, the elation of first kisses, of all kisses.  You see, I love romance and, well, love.  Beyond the science of it, beyond the physiologic responses inherent in acts of love such as kissing, there is true joy.  Reading and writing books fueled by what I love most – love – I am able to feel that joy repeatedly, to illustrate it, and hopefully share it.  In the case of the Dark Creations Saga, writing about the main characters, Melissa and Gabriel, was positively thrilling.  I hope to impart some of that thrill to my readers and that each kiss that I write is magical, unforgettable, and not the disaster that was my first kiss!

 

May all your kisses be magical!

 

Best wishes, or shall I say, best kisses,

Jennifer